AUTHOR - TANYA PAUL
I remember when I used to be in school , at 9th
class , there was a couple in my class ,
madly fell in love with each other, or at least that's
what they thought to be like love , it was.
But since teenage is famous for being the age of
a person being highly unpredictable , the girl left him for no reason .
And the boy ? oh he went into severe depression,
from a person who always bagged one of the top 5 positions in my class he
became someone who used to fail every test.
I remember that once in our parent teacher
meeting her mother cried in front of our class-teacher that why is my boy
behaving like this .
Is this what we owe to our Parents?
Ruining our life for the love which is
not even love ?
Oh and this is only one instance, but each one of
you might have seen a number of stories like this in your daily life. A couple
in a relationship , who initially claim to be forever together with each other,
then they separate, one goes into depression or even maybe they stay together and do stupid
things for each other in the name of love .
See the point here is that I'm not saying that in
teenage we fake the feeling of liking each other, may be it's true but the
point is that that likeness is not love, you can name it as infatuation ,
attraction or anything like that ,but not love, because love is something very pure , it is not
just limited to being a couple and staying with each other it is way more
beyond that .
A few days back I saw a girl around 13 , crying
on the bench of our park just because she was in a fight with her boyfriend,and
I was like seriously ? she was behaving as it was the worst thing that could
happen in her life and that was the moment I realized that how much time and
emotions they are wasting on such petty issues, how are they going to face the
real life problems ?
Teenage is the age which is the most crucial in a
person's life, it is usually called the shaping age for a child i.e how the
person is shaped during this tenure is how he becomes for the rest of his life,
and I don't think that due to this stupid misunderstanding of being in love it
is fair to let those children spoil their lives. Although friendship, like, attraction is common in somewhat intensity, friendship is good and god gifted but teenage should know that healthy relationship is good but emotionally involvement for a temporary feeling can affect their performance.
When teenage feel that they are falling in love just give time to this feeling in spite of showing , actually attraction pass away itself with time, every event and emotion are good but in different stage. Most important parents should keep friendly relation with children and their friends so that your child can share his every feeling, parent should occasionally call children's all friend at home to know their friend circle.
I think it is usually the atmosphere of school
and society, that teenagers tend to do what they see people doing or maybe we can say cinema is so much at fault
for making those innocent munchkins believe that it really will give them a
happily ever after.
It is high time to make them know that there is
so much more to life than this. School and parents have a very important role
in helping them out of this, they can make them channelize their energies into
something more productive, making them pursue their favorite sport or their favorite hobby so that they keep themselves busy with things which are going
to prove beneficial for them.
Mothers usually have a very major role in a
child’s life ,usually a child is so much attached to their mother that they are
comfortable sharing secrets with her ,
she can teach them to have emotional stability, she can teach them what
is right and what is wrong.
So we need
to make those teenagers understand that this is not the ultimate feeling they
have right now , the feeling that they can never overcome the person they think
they are in love with . We need to let them know that this is just a phase and
it will pass by , that every thing will fade away with time . Just let the time
do its magic , and not waste these precious years of their life running after
some temporary things .
Tanya Paul
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