✍ SAUMYA MEHRA
Teenage the age between 13 Years to 19 years. It is a stage of transition from childhood to young adulthood. Children feel many changes in their physical body, mentality and behavior as well because of hormonal changes. Attraction and attachment towards opposite sex in Teenager children are the result of mental , physical and hormonal changes in one’s body or life . Almost every thing is right till a limit, likewise attraction, attachment and friendship between teenager boys and girls, but most of time this sensation assume by teenager as LOVE. Teenage love is not a problem if does not affect student’s career but the desire of a teenager is totally changing due to so called love at this age.
Why a teenager gets mad in love:
Lack of understanding –
At this age child starts
thinking and observing things but in a very different way which may be sometime wrong prediction . And also parents need to understand their child like giving freedom
with limitation. And when a child feels he/she is not being understand by
anyone, he/she just find people of his age to be understood.
Aimless life-
The students
who have no definite aim in life, usually fall over these things easily because in student life
whose focus is not in studies , their focus falls to another things. Some
students get busy in achieving their respective aims , some get busy with their
personal problems but some just posses a blank mind and a blank mind always
invites such type of things.
Let me tell you about myself. I got 7.4 CGPA in my 10 boards and that is very less for me because i was one of the brilliant students in my class . My father scolded me for 2 years. And when my 12th started i thought this is the right time to prove my self again and i studied hard . And as i was a teenager many guys expressed or confessed their love for me but i thought if i fall for these things then i am surely going to the hell again and in this way i did not get any idea of having a love affair in my mind .
Let me tell you about myself. I got 7.4 CGPA in my 10 boards and that is very less for me because i was one of the brilliant students in my class . My father scolded me for 2 years. And when my 12th started i thought this is the right time to prove my self again and i studied hard . And as i was a teenager many guys expressed or confessed their love for me but i thought if i fall for these things then i am surely going to the hell again and in this way i did not get any idea of having a love affair in my mind .
Lack of love at home – If your child fails to find love at home he/she will surely go out for finding love or will be attracted towards loving persons easily. It is also observed that which children loved by parent, they are more emotionally stable and share everything with parents.So give your child proper love and he/she will never go out for love
Hormonal changes –
This age is considered as the most mutable age in every
manner . Various hormonal , physical , mental change occur in this age. Children are curious in nature, they want to explore every new thing, so by nature and under influence of body changes they attract and start feeling emotionally attached with someone. Even children tend to attract toward their opposite gender teacher and neighbors. It is a common natural feeling, but children need to be teach about this temporarily feeling and not to get affected much.
This age is considered as the most mutable age in every
manner . Various hormonal , physical , mental change occur in this age. Children are curious in nature, they want to explore every new thing, so by nature and under influence of body changes they attract and start feeling emotionally attached with someone. Even children tend to attract toward their opposite gender teacher and neighbors. It is a common natural feeling, but children need to be teach about this temporarily feeling and not to get affected much.
Lack of control –
In this age there is less control over feelings . Because for teenager it is all new .some of them wants to experience it and some do not but because of lack of self control they fall over these things. Contemporary modern culture, cinema television, news, surrounding incident also affect much on their thinking and understanding.
In this age there is less control over feelings . Because for teenager it is all new .some of them wants to experience it and some do not but because of lack of self control they fall over these things. Contemporary modern culture, cinema television, news, surrounding incident also affect much on their thinking and understanding.
Lack of proper guidance –
Guidance is the most important thing in this period of age . Because this age confuses the child about right and wrong so just if once parent tell them about right and wrong they will keep it in mind.
Guidance is the most important thing in this period of age . Because this age confuses the child about right and wrong so just if once parent tell them about right and wrong they will keep it in mind.
Tips for parents to stop their children from falling in love?
Parents need to be frank -
For this i just want to
conclude it with an example. There was a girl name Deepa (imaginary name)in her
teenage she fell in love with a guy from her class after some time she just got
pregnant use a duppatta to cover her stomach which was becoming larger day by
day she used to tie duppatta very tightly and delivered a premature child in 7
months with physical disability and now her parents sent her to an ashram and
filed a rape case against the guy . So here i just want to blame her parents
wrong thing done by her but it parents
could improve their child’s mistake if the girl told her parents about that but
the fear and the lack of frankness spoil the life of both of them.
Teachers need to report
their parents if there is something unusual in child–
In today's world teenager spends most of their time at schools and various kind of classes after school and get back to home tired so where is the time left for their parents so in these kind of cases their respective teachers must cooperate .
In today's world teenager spends most of their time at schools and various kind of classes after school and get back to home tired so where is the time left for their parents so in these kind of cases their respective teachers must cooperate .
Share your experience
about love –
Share your teenage love experience and the regrets of yours after crossing that age . It might not be understood by them but they will at least once think about it and the fear will stop them from these things
Share your teenage love experience and the regrets of yours after crossing that age . It might not be understood by them but they will at least once think about it and the fear will stop them from these things
Show blind trust –
If parents show blind trust , does not matter they trust their child or not just show them you trust them like nothing , child before breaking the trust of parents thinks 1000 times . In case breaks the trust but after sometime due to heavy guilt they leave such things which are not good for them.
If parents show blind trust , does not matter they trust their child or not just show them you trust them like nothing , child before breaking the trust of parents thinks 1000 times . In case breaks the trust but after sometime due to heavy guilt they leave such things which are not good for them.
Logical talks-
Parents and teachers just need to talk logically i.e just tell them this is wrong but why this is wrong it is very important to tell because this age just demands logic nothing else . Usually parents give reasons like what the society will think if you do this and that . Let me tell you an example . Children now a days very curious about sex and all so do not say it is wrong and all because if it is wrong you all parents do not have child this time so just say , look before 18 it will be a crime for you according to the law but after that make sure that the guy or girl you choose is perfectly treatable for you or not . May be you will forget about it after the time passes but opposite one will not and may pester you by giving out some proofs . And can blackmail you and may be if he /she will fall in psychic love with you and may push you towards marriage and you do not have any job then what will you do . So just keep these things in your mind and be free to take your decision and if possible just tell us . So in this manner by giving appropriate reasons and demerits you can control your child.
Parents and teachers just need to talk logically i.e just tell them this is wrong but why this is wrong it is very important to tell because this age just demands logic nothing else . Usually parents give reasons like what the society will think if you do this and that . Let me tell you an example . Children now a days very curious about sex and all so do not say it is wrong and all because if it is wrong you all parents do not have child this time so just say , look before 18 it will be a crime for you according to the law but after that make sure that the guy or girl you choose is perfectly treatable for you or not . May be you will forget about it after the time passes but opposite one will not and may pester you by giving out some proofs . And can blackmail you and may be if he /she will fall in psychic love with you and may push you towards marriage and you do not have any job then what will you do . So just keep these things in your mind and be free to take your decision and if possible just tell us . So in this manner by giving appropriate reasons and demerits you can control your child.
Meeting with different
known teens-
If your child is going through a heart break then you need to take him/her out for some time like in relative’s house, where he/she could met teens like him/her and know from other teens that there are a lot of things in life than love .
If your child is going through a heart break then you need to take him/her out for some time like in relative’s house, where he/she could met teens like him/her and know from other teens that there are a lot of things in life than love .
Tips for teenagers?
Observation-
whenever you get a thought in this way just go for a study of people make a list of successful teenage love and failure as well. You will get your answer .
whenever you get a thought in this way just go for a study of people make a list of successful teenage love and failure as well. You will get your answer .
Be busy-
The ones who
are suffering from a heart break. Just be busy and if you really want true love
in your life be the deserving one be the better version of yourself . And its
seriously depressing for you and causing sleepless nights . Spend your spare
time in playgrounds , gyms . And do exercises, meditation. That will convert
your negative energy to the positive . This will let you out of the situation .
Share your emotion with someone who guide you well
If you really
want to share something to someone other than parents and if you want you to be
understood by someone then it would be a perfect decision to choose a friend he
or she will never judge you for your confessions, your secrets your every thing
because friendship is all about imperfection . Just be true to that one friend
and he will never let you down or never break your trust. Make friends your
priority. Trust me the thrill that is in friendship is no where. Just be with
your friends .
Understand the fact that
more than half of your life is going to be in a relationship so just enjoy
individuality till then.
Think of the worst thing
in your life and set goals accordingly, chase them by your heart .
Author- Saumya mehra
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