Dr. Alka Ramsinghi

   As A Girl

“How Should Be Safe During travel By  Strange people“

 _{जीवनएकयात्राहै,ऐसेहीहमभीअनेकयात्राएँकरतेहैं,जोबहुत हीमजेदारहोताहैलेकिनतबतक, जबतकयात्रासुरक्षितहो।}

 _{किसीभीआकस्मिकदुर्घटनायाअवांछितपरेशानीसेयात्रामुसीबतबनजातीहै, विशेषतःमहिलाओंयालड़कियोंकेलिये।}

_{महिलाओंयालड़कियोंकोट्रेनऔरबसमेंयाराहचलतेभीअसमाजिकतत्वों,संदिग्धअजनबियोंऔरउनकीअश्लीलटिप्पणियोंऔरछेड़छाड़जैसेदुर्व्यवहारझेलनेपड़तेहैं।}

_{इससेनिपटनाहरमहिलाकोआनाआवश्यकहै,क्योंकिअपनीसुरक्षास्वयंकीजिम्मेदारीहै।} 

   _{निम्नकुछसावधानियांरखकरयात्रासुकूनभरीऔरसुरक्षितबनाईजासकतीहै।}

_{1.यात्राकेदौरानसहयात्रियोंकेसाथबातव्यवहारउचितहैपरंतुअपनीगोपनीयताकेसाथमतलबअपनीनिजीजानकारियां,पहचान,औरगंतव्यस्थानकीजानकारीकिसीसेभीनबाँटे।}

_{2.अपनाकीमतीऔरआवश्यकसामानजैसेटिकट,पैसेऔरअपनेपहचानपत्रकिसीपहुँचमेंरखेजानेवालेपर्सयापॉकेटमेंरखेंजिससेनिकालनेमेंसुविधाहो।}

_{3.अपनेआवश्यकcontactno’s,अथवाemergencyno’sकोडायरीयामोबाइलमेंspeeddialमेंरखें, ताकिशीघ्रतासेमिलजाये।}

_{4.संदिग्धव्यक्तियोंसेसतर्करहेंऔरसहयात्रियोंऔररेलयाबसप्रशासनकोअवगतकराएं।}

_{5.किसीभीप्रकारकाभयहोनेपरhelplineno1091या112परcallकरकेमददलेसकतेहैंइसलियेयहno, यादरखें।}

_{6.आवश्यकहोनेपरप्रशासनिकसहायतासेअपनीseatयाbirthबदलवानेकाप्रयासकरें}

_{7.यदिआपअकेलेयात्राकररहेहैंतोअपनेहावभावसेडरयाअविश्वासनझलकनेदेंताकिकोईउसकादुरुपयोगनकरसके।}

_{8.अजनबियोंसेअधिकघनिष्टबातव्यवहारयाखानेपीनेकाआदानप्रदानऔरउपयोगनकरें।}

_{9.अपनीयात्राकेदौरानपूरीतरहसचेतरहें,गहरीनींदयासोनेकीस्थितिसेबचेंयासतर्कतासेसोयें।}

_{10.यात्राकेदौरानसुरक्षाऔरसहूलियतआपकानागरिकअधिकारहैबससचेतहोकरआपअपनीयात्राकाआनंदलेसकतेहैं।}

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Dual Earning Family: Benefits with Problems I

By- SAUMYA MEHRA

Dual earning family means where both spouse engage in earning. In today’s society , economical condition, couple preferences and family needs have created many dual earning families.  These type of families have some benefits and some issues too. Mostly women have to play dual role as a earner and house maker too. Most of family has developed their  own strategy to handle all issue.

Read some following situation of dual earner families :

Case 1:

·      Family type-  lower Middle class Joint family  (9 members in this family)

·      Family details - 2 children  within 2-3 years old ,  mother in law and a father in law both are more than 60 age and , 2 spouse and 3 studying brothers of male spouse

In this family, both spouse are engage in earning to full fill their daily expenses, need of families and for better livelihood, but as  parents are old and other members are very small, they are not able to do work.  Financial situation is not enough to hire a maid and the three brothers being busy in studies, so they also are not able to do the household works. 

In this family the level of work load is very very high and only woman does all the household work. She wakes up at 3 am, completes the official register work and then make breakfast for all and washes clothes and utensils and then goes to office, usually she makes daal (lentil) in the morning and her mother in law makes the rice at lunch time then she comes home at evening and does the remaining household work. 

In this family money is also a problem as only two earners are there but expenses are more. And the 2 little babies are taken cared by their grand parents.

 Problem- work burden and money problem. Both of spouse are working and hardly with effort they are full filling their needs, so it is their genuine need to work both for bread and butter, working woman has very load for both office and house work.

DUAL EARNING FAMILY : BENEFIT WITH PROBLEM II

In previous part you have read about some example family situation of working couple, how they are living their life and benefits of dual earning families. 
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Problems with Dual Earning Couple-

·      Insecurity – There was family i had a conversation with both male and female personally where the rate of increment in female’s income was more than that of male’s. So in this case the man was quite insecure about their relationship and also his position.

·      Burden of Household works- When workload is more than workforce there arise a situation of burden. As both man and woman work for earning in this kind of family that is why the household burden is huge to them ,usually in most of the cases female does the household works. And in some cases husband helps her woman but not fully ,just few works are done by male member.

·      Lack of time for children- Dual earning parents generally get failed in managing time for their children .And to nurture child the presence of parents is must.Due to activeness in job generally parents seem unable to give proper time to children and children are their future and thinking about future is today . So they are focusing due to work load .

·      Effects on enjoyable kinds- enjoyable social functions like marriage and other parties are mostly remain unattended due to lack of holidays from office. In single earning family at least one can attend but in dual, it remain unattended and sometimes spoil other relationships.

LESSON OF LIFE

✍ RASOOL FATIMA

It is rightly said that life is full of lessons and each crisis you survive whether big or small, becomes a milestone which change your life for better. My life too had these turning points. I had my first major experience in standard 8^th. I was part of close knit group of four girls. We all were really close and used to have the best times together. But then puberty struck and all of them turned into hormonal teenager prone making stupid decisions. Somehow, I seemed to have escaped the malady and that made me an outcast. The distance between us seems to grow with each passing day. I tried to cling to that friendship but the silly acts they put up; the emotional blackmail plans they hatched in order to attract the attention of boys, I couldn’t justify and refrain from participating while trying to make them understand. They only turned against me but I kept holding on to this toxic friendship. I entered mild depression, my grades dropped and I took my frustration on my family. It went on for year when one fine day, I decided this can’t go on. I told my parents about everything and they listened, supported me through the process where I distanced myself from these ‘toxic people’. Being out of that group allowed me to meet new people and make some lifelong friends. I was afraid to be alone but it is better to be alone than in a bad company. And also, parents are your greatest support system. Communicate with them.

The second major life changing experience was when I got admitted to an elite college. I am by nature an introvert. And I have lived my whole life in a quiet small town. Moving to a metro city that to an elite college full of rich kids drunk on latest trends, it was a shock to my system. Life seems to rush in the big city. Being out of comfort of home from the first time, I had a real difficult time to adjust. The environment in the college only made more difficult. In elite college, especially if you are a girl, there are high levels of standards you have to maintain and certain ways you have to act. And I refused to follow the norm and thus I had no friend to turn to. I was going through the days being numb to all the noise around me. After a month of staying as paying guest, I got the college hostel. At first it was awkward, sharing room with strangers. But slowly, we started talking and I found they are experiencing the same thing as me. And on this shared ground, I build new friendship and now after almost two years, I can safely say, I found a second family. I never thought I could find such amazing, kind and loving people but despite little conflict here and there, I am blessed to be part of my hostel family. It is important to be true to yourself. It is only then you find people who truly accept you with all your harsh edges. 

Life Incidents

 Yes! They’ve made me stronger!

Author: Ishwarya J

Rewinding the years that have passed, it definitely feels that life isn’t that simple as you think.

I second all the thoughts that would be running on your mind right now because most of us would have faced a million complications to reach a settling point.

To put it across in a better way; this happened way back when I was in my eleventh grade where my world only was books and people identified me only with “them”. I was very bold and proactive in whatever I did. Probably because of the similar ambiance in my school. Nevertheless, we know situations are never the same and you’d might have to face things you wouldn’t think would be happening with you.

And this was the worse time I’ve ever been through.

The eleventh grade was a totally new atmosphere to me as I was from a girls school and never experienced coeducational life before. So, I basically had the same mindset as in school but this didn’t work out as people in my class mistook me by commenting  on my way of  being an active part in the class room sessions. Another strong reason was that , I never really found the need to interact with the guys in my class  not because I wasn’t used to it or something but, it  was my last priority. But this lead some people to think that I portrayed attitude.

 They knew that they were judging me in the wrong way ; just because my teachers interacted with me and liked me more. It would have been better if “only” they had such thoughts against me but that didn’t happen.

Be yourself ; a misunderstanding

SAUMYA MEHRA

There was a time when i was having too many losses of relationships due to losing of temper . One daymy teacher scolded me without any fault of mine and as usual i screamed Very much at  my teacher and that was wrong even if i was right. 

Teacher is the first god in journey of life how could i disrespect him and then i thought of changing my self because i was unhappy with deteriorating relationships of mine with everyone, friends ,teachers , parents. And then another dayiwas scrolling down in my phone i read about Buddha and being a student i want to know about him because of the wisdom he achieved and i read there his last words that is appodevobha womeans “be a light unto yourself” which means “be yourself” and I just cancelled  the thought of changing myself and satisfied  my behaviour and next day i was going somewhere with my family and a drunker was beating his wife in public and i thought to slap that guy but we walked off  . And that night i did not sleep thinking that if iwould get that kind of guy in my life and blah wlahand then i thought he is doing the same as i am doing “being self” . And more sleepless nights make me realised that being yourself does not mean stop improving or not improving . So just embrace and learn the lessons and move on.

Do not deny to a lesson of your life in the name of being yourself just because it wants some change in you.

Author- saumyamehra

LET'S FIGHT BACK DEPRESSION

Written By-Tanya Paul

So first of all let me tell you about two instances of depression which I witnessed closely

INSTANCE ONE

When I was in my first year of graduation,

I remember, that I went into depression somehow . I was having some family problems, as well as problems with adjusting in the new city and losing old friends, and coincidentally I had some issues with my personal life too at that very moment , so eventually I slipped into depression. 

I remember I used to visit my home during the weekends, and my mother used to cry looking at me . My parents were so tensed about me that how I am I going to survive . One day my father took me for a walk and told me that no education, nothing is more important than you, he asked me to leave the college and have a new start but I somehow managed to survive through, and believe me it made me emerge as a better and more confident person. I am emotionally stronger now because of that , and I have the strength of overcoming difficult situations now.

INSTANCE TWO

Now let's talk about another instance of depression which I have witnessed,
A friend of mine( not a close one you though) lost her mother in a road accident ,
initially she was handling the situation strongly , she was taking care of her little brother and was trying to

be the strength of her family ,but eventually as the days passed by when the relatives stopped visiting ,when everyone else resumed with a normal life, that was the movement something hit her hard and she slipped into depression , a severe one . I remember how everyone tried to console her ,I remember the look in her eyes, the way she felt that nothing more is there to live for,but somehow she also managed to struggle her life through that phase
SO NOW LET’S TALK ABOUT DEPRESSION . WHAT EXACTLY THIS TERM IS?

Work your fingers to the bone and Entrust

By - Shravani

Hello Friends,  I am Shravani, and I want to share few of mine  experiences with you, that completely changed my life and my way of thinking.  Here  I would like to mention two incidents. One that occurred with me and the other with my friend but these experiences actually changed our lives.

The first incident happened with my friend who is a medical student. That time she was in class 12^th . She was given a recognition for her hard work, intelligence and punctuality by teachers during junior college. Teachers would always appreciate her and help her in her studies.

But there was one black sheep in the teaching fraternity. This teacher resented the compliments earned by her. Despite the fact that she had a potential to excel academically it happened that out  of vengeance , the teacher instead of capitalising  on the positive side gave more emphasis on the shortcomings on her part with sole aim to demoralise her. In a situation like this, the vindictive attitude of the teacher is detrimental .

Thus, she was very much depressed and helpless. Looking at her in depression, even we thought that she would never come out of this terrible depression that seized he then. But because of her well-wishers within the peers who used to constantly motivate her and also  our  teachers who held  very high esteem in her , advised  to wink at the scathing comments made by the teacher in question.

The advice rendered by the friends and well-wishers did help her to tide over the crisis. And thus she took her lessons very seriously, deciding that one  should not get influenced by any extraneous comments which were aimed to mar her progress.

From this incident, all of us learnt a very important thing i.e. there are people who always try to pull your legs but don’t   fall for them. Always your hard work will give the results. “Hardwork Never Fails”.

Here, there is one more incident which happened with me when I was in Mumbai. And now,  when I recall that incident I feel that before trusting any one you should think twice. Trust on any person plays an important role. Be careful when you trust.  I often refer myself as the luckiest traveler, because till now, I have very good experiences while travelling but, travel can be challenging, stressful and even bad things can happen.

So going ahead with the incident, it happened that, I had to catch a bus running to Goa at 11 pm from Vashi Toll naka. So, the bus stop was far away from my place and also it was on  a highway from where it was nearly impossible to cross