EMPTY NEST SYNDROME

✍ TANYA PAUL

When the little birds fly away

Whole of their lives they invest in their children , not just financially, but emotionally and physically too.

They spend the most precious and energetic years of their life taking care of their kids,

and when the time comes, when they expect those children to return the same love and care, their sons and daughters leave for bigger cities and towns, leaving those old parents alone in their nest.

So let's talk about empty nest syndrome, the most common problem we have today.

I have an old couple in my neighbourhood , who have 3 children , while the daughter is married in another city , both the sons are settled out of India . I remember once I was having a walk in the park with my friend , we randomly greeted him and talked to him , and at the end of the conversation , that uncle said

“ बेटा तुम कभी कभी घर आ जाया करो , घर में रौनक आएगी ”

I still remember the look of loneliness in his eyes,

I remember how happy he was to talk to us .

WHAT EXACTLY IS THE TERM EMPTY NEST SYNDROME ?

A couple in late adulthood may suffer from this , with all their children having migrated to other cities 

for education or job reason.

It is a feeling of sadness and loneliness which parents feel, a negative psychological feeling which somehow also affects their physical and emotional health.

Having an empty nests make parents miss having those baby birds around , they sometimes indulge themselves in having negative thoughts.

Height Never Matters

✍ Shravani Prabhudesai

Every person wants good height and personality. Usually a good & enough height is associated with the look and personality of a person. It is generally seen in society that a taller person is given more preference over a short person in almost every field. So it is a common general desire of everyone to gain an impressive height. 

But it is not possible that everyone gain perfect height, body build, it is not in our hand, there are some people who feel embarrassed or bullying by others because of their height and other body shape issues. It is a serious issue to discuss and to understand what is most important for us.

The true height of a person is his or her character and deeds. Short height is usually seen as a negative factor. No one ever talks with a short men in a positive way. specially when people are aware of the fact that you are insecure about your height, only then they tease you.

Shortness in children and young adults nearly always results from many factor like - heredity, below-average growth in childhood, nature of work and play in childhood, hormonal imbalance like thyroid hormone while shortness in older adults usually results from loss of height due to kyphosis  of the spine (convex curvature of spine), or collapsed vertebrae from osteoporosis. Other some factors are race, geographical status, physical exercise, nutrition, stress, living standard, housing etc.

A person is  said to be short in medical terms if his height is less than 5ft 10 inches for males and 5ft 5inches for females.

Parents with slow-growing children often ask pediatricians for growth hormone to save their kids the indignity of being short. 

Here, I would like to mention about one of my friend who is short in height. She has an inferiority complex. She always feel  herself lonely in a group of  people. In reality, she is really beautiful  and is gifted with a sweet voice, but because of her short height she has a complex. She feels that tall people or people with normal height look good and beautiful.. Because of this, she never mix with people and always stay alone. She always feel embarrassed about it. We friends always try to convince her that, one’s stature is not something which one has control over. God doesn't give everything to everybody.

Love at Teenage : An emotional Bubble!!

✍ SAUMYA MEHRA

Teenage the age between 13 Years to 19 years. It is a stage of transition from childhood to young adulthood. Children feel many changes in their physical body, mentality and behavior as well because of hormonal changes. 

Attraction and attachment towards opposite sex in Teenager children are the result of mental , physical and hormonal changes in one’s body or life . Almost every thing is right till a limit, likewise attraction, attachment and friendship between teenager boys and girls, but most of time this sensation assume by teenager as LOVE.  Teenage love is not a problem if does not affect student’s career but the desire of a teenager is totally changing due to so called love at this age. 

Why a teenager gets mad in love:

Lack of understanding – 

At this age child starts thinking and observing things but in a very different way which  may be sometime wrong prediction . And also parents need to understand their child like giving freedom with limitation. And when a child feels he/she is not being understand by anyone, he/she just find people of his age to be understood.

Aimless life-

The students who have no definite  aim in life, usually fall over these things easily because in student life whose focus is not in studies , their focus falls to another things. Some students get busy in achieving their respective aims , some get busy with their personal problems but some just posses a blank mind and a blank mind always invites such type of things.
Let me tell you about myself. I got 7.4 CGPA in my 10 boards and that is very less for me because i was one of the brilliant students in my class . My father scolded  me for 2 years. And when my 12^th started i thought this is the right time to prove my self again and i studied hard . And as i was a teenager many guys expressed or confessed their love for me but i thought if i fall for these things then i am surely going to the hell again and in this way i did not get any idea of having a love affair in my mind .

Lack of love at home – 
If your child fails to find love at home he/she will surely go out for finding love or will be attracted towards loving persons easily. It is also observed that which children loved by parent, they are more emotionally stable and share everything with parents.So give your child proper love and he/she will never go out for love

 Hormonal changes –
This age is  considered as the most mutable age in every manner . Various hormonal , physical , mental change occur in this age. Children are curious in nature, they want to explore every new thing, so by nature and under influence of body changes they attract and start feeling emotionally attached with someone. Even children tend to attract toward their opposite gender teacher and neighbors. It is a common natural feeling, but children need to be teach about this temporarily feeling and not to get affected much.

Exam Marks : Real Parameter for a Perfect Future?

 Author: Ishwarya J

"Freedom" for students for sure has terms and conditions - the top most being their "Marks".

Be it the most irrelevant topic to academics, but you will still find the amazing skills of parents in trying to make space to talk about your "Marks".

It's definitely right from their perspective because of the conventional thought that marks play a lead role for a perfect future and this strong misconception is unknowingly pushing the students into a world of competition where they are prevented from experiencing the "Real Future".

This seems casual but a deeper insight to this has lot more to deal with because  students are accustomed to think in the terms of marks only and are pressurized that marks are to be the only objectives that they should be having and rest should be thought of only after they have  scored more than the “respectable marks”.

It isn't the parents or the students who have to be blamed but, the educational system.

I totally agree, that sounds quite common but I don’t see any change in any of the courses even after realizing this.

Where in India are we relying on practical knowledge? 

We allot lab sessions in various courses just for the sake of fake picturisation of “practicality”. We are not bothered about having practical sessions until high school but the struggle that your parents and teachers take for you to secure highly well off marks starts from your kindergarten itself.

That's so ridiculous to even think of! 

I don’t say that marks are not of any importance but they definitely aren't future deciding factors!

It's so absurd that until intermediate you’re asked to focus on ranks, marks etc. and not to think of any other co-curricular or extracurricular activities and then when you’re into some under graduation course and looking for a job, you’re judged based on your extra activities apart from your academics.

अन्धविश्वास : भटके नहीं, इनसे बचें

✍ डॉ. भूपेंद्र गुप्ता 
धर्म - कर्म में आस्था, ईश्वर में विश्वास रखना अच्छी बात है, पर जब यह विश्वास  अन्धविश्वास का रूप ले ले तब विकट परिस्थितियां खड़ी होने लगती है, विशेषकर जब लोग इलाज झाड-फूंक, बैगा, तांत्रिक आदि से कराने लगते है, इस स्थिति में रोग का समुचित इलाज नहीं हो पाता है साथ ही रोग भी बढ़ते जाता है|

  बात तब की है जब मै एक गाँव के सरकारी अस्पताल में पदस्थ था, गाँव के कई लोग अपनी लाइलाज या गंभीर बीमारी के लिए  झाड-फूंक भी कराते थे| एक दम्पति मेरे पास आये, वे महिला के सिर दर्द के लिए आये थे, बात करने एवं पुरानी बीमारी के बारे में पूछने से पता चला कि  उस महिला को तीन बार गर्भ ठहरा था, परन्तु तीन से चार माह में ही गर्भपात हो जाया करता था, अब तक उन्होंने कोई चिकित्सकीय इलाज नहीं करवाया था, उनके परिवार वाले उस महिला को एक तांत्रिक/ ओझा के पास ले जाया करते थे, जो किसी पूजा के बहाने महिला के पीठ में एक थाली चिपका दिया करता था, और कहा करता था कि किसी प्रेत का साया है, जब तक वह नहीं छोड़ेगा, गर्भ नहीं होगा, इस तरह से उन्हें दो वर्ष हो चुके थे, पूजा के नाम पर मुर्गा, बकरा, शराब और कुछ हजार रुपये वे दे चुके थे, पर नतीजा कुछ नहीं हुआ, उलटे महिला को मासिक आना बंद हो गए थे|

मैंने उन्हें समझाया कि यह गर्भाशय की बीमारी अथवा हार्मोनल असंतुलन की वजह से होता है, उन्हें जांच करने कि आवश्यकता है, इस प्रकार तंत्र मन्त्र में उलझने से उन्हें कोई फायदा नहीं होने वाला, वे दम्पति माने , जांच हुई, महिला को अंडाशय में सिस्ट की बीमारी थी, उन्हें समझा बुझाकर 5-6 माह तक इलाज चलाया गया, इलाज के दौरान परिवार वाले पुनः उसी तंत्रक के पास जाने के लिए दवाब डालते, पर मेरे समझाने पर इस बार वो अडिग थे| अंततः महिला को गर्भ ठहर गया, उस दम्पति के परिवार वाले भी खुश थे|

अचानक एक दिन वे दम्पति फिर मेरे पास आये, महिला के  गर्भकाल का सातवाँ महिना चल रहा था, महिला को रक्तस्त्राव शुरू हो चूका था, महिला के पति ने बताया, तांत्रिक ने कहा था कि प्रेत का साया नहीं हटा है, बच्चा रुक नहीं पायेगा, और इसे रक्त जाने लगा, तो हमें कुछ सुझा नहीं तो फिर आपके पास आये हैं,

Diagnosis and classification of Diabetes Mellitus

 Provisional report of a Consultation- by Dr. Sourabh Jaiswal   

  Diabetes is a huge subject, which occupies the working life of several thousand health workers in this country alone.  It is expect to cover  details of diabetes  in one lecture or article  is therefore unrealistic.  So i will give you an important information first, then step by step i will be writing  more about diabetes in further articles.

Basically we can divide diabetes in four major type :

•  Type (1). Type 1 diabetes:   immune mediated and idiopathic forms of b cell dysfunction, which lead to absolute insulin deficiency. This is an autoimmune mediated disease process which gives rise to absolute deficiency of insulin and therefore total dependency upon insulin for survival.
• Type 2 diabetes:    Mostly find in adult, this is related with insulin secretion and body insensitivity for insulin, which may originate from insulin resistance and relative insulin deficiency or from a secretory defect. This is a disease, which appears to have a very strong genetic predisposition and is caused by a combination of inadequate insulin secretion and an insensitiveness  of the body tissues to insulin so leaving patients with this condition relatively deficient in insulin.
•  Type 3 diabetes:  This covers a wide range of specific types of diabetes which include various genetic defects in insulin action, and diseases of the exocrine pancreatic gland . 
• Type 4 diabetes: It is gestational diabetes, occur during pregnancy period, it is physiological and most of cases resolve itself after delivery.

                             

      Diagnostic criteria :    Updated                               

 A new category of Impaired Fasting Glycaemia (IFG) is proposed to encompass values which are above normal but below the diagnostic cut‐off for diabetes (plasma ≥6.1 to <7.0 mmol l−1; whole blood ≥5.6 to <6.1 mmol l−1). 

Gestational Diabetes Mellitus (GDM) now includes gestational

BEYOND THE EXAM MARKS

AUTHOR - RASOOL FATIMA         

WHAT IS EXAM ?  Honestly saying it is only the result of 3 hours writing in a paper what you have read perfectly in a year.

Result can affect your planning but never can hide your talent both academic or extra-curricular.

Our education system has some very serious problems. It includes giving more preference to good marks over the knowledge and no encouragement of the students who think differently. Our schools and colleges only focus on scoring good marks in schools not on their actual knowledge and field of interest. And in this race of scoring goods marks, student potential of doing something great of his/her interest gets unperformed. Real learning is not the priority, students are being trained to clear the exam and to get a job. 

Everyone is encouraging rat race of getting good, not good but highest marks: Every parent wants their children to score good marks and to be on the top of the class. When the results are out parents start comparing their kids with the other kids. Kids get under pressure of scoring good marks in exams, so they start cramming the text books earlier night and they write it on the next day without understanding it. After giving the exam they forget whatever they have studied, therefore there is no learning.

Marks cannot judge someone’s talent

Scoring less marks in the exam is not the end of the life. If you are passionate in your work and have a strong desire to do something than no one can stop you. Great people like Steve Jobs, Bill Gates and Larry Ellison are all college dropouts but they all have become successful by their hard work and dedication towards their work. In the race of marks, students are becoming less creative. Some students can study which is already established and written in textbooks, but some like to create new things by their own, so grab the opportunities to show your talents.

Pressure of perform well and scoring high affects children's emotions: 

Fear of getting good marks in examination in students cause severe headaches, depression, loss of appetite, various mood disorder, sleeplessness and anxiety. For some student failure in expectation causes a psychological threat that they get demotivated and sometimes children commit suicide due to the unpleasant 

behavior and rude attitude of their parents after when they score poor marks. Even the teachers discourage and scolds them for not performing good in exams and the students starts feeling that they are good for nothing.

THE LOVEY DOVEY TEENAGE LOVE IN ROMANTIC MOVIES : IT’S ALL A MYTH .

AUTHOR - TANYA PAUL

I remember when I used to be in school , at 9th class , there was a couple in my class ,

madly fell in love with each other, or at least that's what they thought to be like love , it was.

But since teenage is famous for being the age of a person being highly unpredictable , the girl left him for no reason .

And the boy ? oh he went into severe depression, from a person who always bagged one of the top 5 positions in my class he became someone who used to fail every test.

I remember that once in our parent teacher meeting her mother cried in front of our class-teacher that why is my boy behaving like this .

Is this what we owe to our Parents? 

Ruining our life for the love which is not even love ?

Oh and this is only one instance, but each one of you might have seen a number of stories like this in your daily life. A couple in a relationship , who initially claim to be forever together with each other, then they separate, one goes into depression or even maybe they stay together and do stupid things for each other in the name of love .

See the point here is that I'm not saying that in teenage we fake the feeling of liking each other, may be it's true but the point is that that likeness is not love, you can name it as infatuation , attraction or anything like that ,but not love, because love is something very pure , it is not just limited to being a couple and staying with each other it is way more beyond that .

A few days back I saw a girl around 13 , crying on the bench of our park just because she was in a fight with her boyfriend,and I was like seriously ? she was behaving as it was the worst thing that could happen in her life and that was the moment I realized that how much time and emotions they are wasting on such petty issues, how are they going to face the real life problems ?

भरपूर नींद : अच्छे स्वास्थ्य की कुंजी

लेखिका - किरण गोस्वामी

 18 वर्षीया सेजल पटेल कहती है कि उन्हें हर वक़्त कमजोरी और शिथिलता सी लगती है और किसी काम में मन नहीं लगता हैं |

 25 साल के कुणाल कौशिक को सिरदर्द, सिर में भारीपन और चिढचिढेपन की शिकायत है | 

नितिन की उम्र 40 हैं और उन्हें  उच्च रक्तचाप, मोटापे , कुपच और शारीरिक कमजोरी जैसी समस्याओं का सामना करना पड़ रहा हैं |

इन सभी की परेशानियों का एक ही कारण हैं – नींद की कमी और अव्यवस्थित शयन चक्र | सेजल को जहाँ इनसोम्निया यानि नींद न आने की बीमारी हैं , वहीं अपने काम के चलते कुणाल के सोने का कोई निश्चित समय नहीं हैं | नितिन की देर तक जागने की आदत इतनी गहरी हो चुकी है कि अब चाहते हुए भी वे समय पर नहीं सो पाते |

पर्याप्त नींद हमारे शरीर के लिए उतनी ही ज़रूरी है जितना भोजन | आज के लगातार दौड़ते-भागते और व्यस्त जीवन में जहाँ हमारी दैनिक दिनचर्या भी तय नहीं है , उचित नींद की एहमियत और बढ़ गयी हैं | एक स्वस्थ शरीर के लिए  लगभग 7-8 घंटे की नींद ज़रूरत होती हैं ,वो भी रात की नींद | असमय सोना भी अपने आप में एक जटिल समस्या हैं | नींद का अभाव एक साधारण बात लग सकती है ,लेकिन इसके परिणाम बहुत ही घातक होते  हैं |

आजकल अनियमित नींद एक सामान्य विश्वव्यापी समस्या बन चुकी हैं | इससे कोई भी आयुवर्ग अछुता नहीं है | बच्चों से लेकर वृद्ध  अधिकतर  को यह समस्या हैं |

                                                               

 नींद के अभाव के कारण :

                                                               

1.       अव्यवस्थित कार्यशैली  –  अनियमित ऑफिस टाइम या वर्क-लोड एक कारण है जिसके चलते लोगों की नींद प्रभावित होती हैं |

2.       देर तक मोबाइल चलाना या  टीवी देखना – इलेक्ट्रिक यंत्रो का अत्यधिक उपयोग हमारी आँखों और शरीर पर तो बुरा प्रभाव डालता ही है ,साथ ही साथ हमारी नींद को भी बिगाड़ता हैं |

3.       असमय अधिक सो लेना – कुछ लोगों को दिन में सोने की आदत होती हैं | झपकियों तक यह ठीक रहता है लेकिन अनियमित ज्यादा नींद बहुत नुकसानदायक सिद्ध होती हैं |

4.       केफीन का अधिक सेवन ­– चाय या कॉफ़ी जैसे केफीन युक्त पेय हमारे शरीर को जगाये रखने में मदद करते है और इनका अत्यधिक सेवन भी नींद के लिए एक रूकावट बन सकता है |

5.       स्ट्रेस – तनाव और अवसाद के कारण  भी नींद गड़बड़ा सकती हैं |

6.       एंग्जायटी (चिंता) – किसी बात को लगातार सोचते रहना और चिंतित रहना भी नींद न आने का कारण हो सकता हैं |

7.       असुविधाजनक बिस्तर – बिस्तर या पलंग का ठीक होना भी अच्छी नींद के लिए ज़रूरी है |

8.       बढ़ती उम्र – जैसे जैसे उम्र बढती है ,नींद की कमी होने लगती है |

THE UNOFFICIAL HOME MINISTER

Author : Ishwarya J

Looking back I've realized that

“Situations never changed!"

Because I'm still used to those early morning scenes where you hear your mother's voice from your kitchen saying

“It’s past time! Wake up, your already late!" and then she's busy running around with a glass of milk in one hand and your father's tie in the other.

The whole situations seems funny but trust me it was the same when I was 6 years old and it's the same even now, when I'm 20.

Isn't this something that happens in your house too? 

I've analyzed lately, that we all have that one person in our house who works to the best of her capabilities probably for the entire life time and still remains unnoticed by everyone living under the same roof.

By now, it should be pretty obvious that I'm referring to the unofficial Home minister of your house – The home maker.

To us "Home Maker" is someone who’s jobless.

Don't you feel so?

Because most of us live in a delusion that we’re “official workers” as we have a workplace and would be receiving the pay for whatever we do. But have we ever invoked our thought process to think of a home maker who works within the four walls of a house taking it as her default workplace expecting love and recognition as her pay?

I bet you would have assumed and convinced yourself that everything's always  just perfect and awesome with her so ,you just wouldn't have to give it a thought and that's probably because she would have  gone through so many uncomfortable situations but still pretends to be happy just for the sake of her family.

Where in the world would you find such heights of dedication and love?

She’s probably the only person who knows about every inch of the house and also about the people living in it. She’s busy all through the day working for her children and husband only to see them happy and peaceful. She puts aside all her desires giving the least priority to herself. She’s the lead decision maker of the house be it financially or academically. 

Say No to Negativity

AUTHOR - SHRAVANI PRABHUDESAI

        Negativity is a very nasty mental abnormality. Remove yourself from all negative situations. Choose to be positive, it will help you maintain a better attitude, vision, health and mindset.

         It is always said that girls are emotional, or girls are sensitive. But it is not always true. Even boys have feelings, they are sensitive and sometimes much more than girls. Highly sensitive people tend to get their feelings hurt easily.

        Thoughts and emotions can be triggered by number of ways. Too much sensitivity or negativity can stop you from following your goals and passions in life – because you are too concerned with how other people think of you, and you’re not comfortable just being yourself despite the negative judgments.☺

        One way to handle this is to retrain your mental habits. It is good to be a sensitive person, but you should not be oversensitive or negative.  

There are few ways to overcome these situations:.

1)     Do some work and keep yourselves busy. Try to keep yourself busy as much as possible in your favorite work or hobby, so that you  don’t get time to think about other stuffs in your life.

2)    Yoga and meditation - Meditation helps relax your mind and teaches you to be at peace with yourself. And that is the foundation of being emotionally detached. 

THE BACKBONE OF THE FAMILY:HOUSEWIFE

AUTHOR : TANYA PAUL

"She's just a Housewife" a line we usually hear from people . But is the housewife title a 'just' for them ?

I am proud to say that my mother is one of the housewife's , because she is not just the one who stays inside the house , instead I would prefer saying that she is the homemaker,she made that simple house a home and I wonder if any of us could have achieved the positions we are on today if she wouldn't have sacrificed the things she did , for us .

 

So let's start discuss about the chores, routines of housewives and our negligent attitude towards them , so that from next time we look at them in a more appreciable way , the way in which they really deserve to be looked at .

And for all the thing they do , what do they get in return ? 

Our ignorant attitude and negligence ?

Is this what they deserve?

She gives her 100% to the family and as returns  she expects only the support of her family members, to make her feel loved , but most of us  fail to provide her that feeling. 

 

Even the job routines give you a day or two off in a week , even the job routines give you festive holidays but a housewife ? ... ... .without complaining do her chores each day and night,every year.

Even the job routines have a particular hours shift , but she?  .... on the other hand keeps on doing her chores from early morning to late at night.

Even the jobs offer money for what work we do but what does she get it return ? 

Financial dependency on other members for every ounce of money she spends ? What about her desires , her wishes ?

CONTROL YOUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS .. BE POSITIVE

Author -  Saumya Mehra

Question - what is negativity ?

Answer-Negative and positive are two aspects of life but negativity is the inability of a person to see anything good on other things or people . People with extreme negativity are just pessimist about everything. They criticize each and every thing in their surroundings .In this state of mind a person thinks that everything is impossible for him to acquire.

Question- what are the symptoms of negativity ?

Answer-

·      Hopelessness

·      Mental weakness

·      Lack of interest

·      Fear

·      Motiveless

·      Self blaming

·      Irritation

·      Lack of patience

·      “I can not” attitude

·      Premature evaluation

·      Dependency on others

·      More believe in material things

Question- what are causes of arising excess negative thoughts or origin of extreme negativity ?

Answer- origin-

·      Human mind

·      Wrong observation

·      Lack of faith in own potential

·      Environment

·      Over expectations

·      Past events

·      Over thinking

Question- what are the effects Of negativity ?

Answer-

·      Affects decision making capacity-

      Negative thoughts make people more confused about their decisions because they see results negative before happening. They want things to happen but the fear of getting negative results let them renounce everything. They take risks equal to almost no and without risk decisions are not possible to take .

·      Fear-

People with extreme negativity are always scared because of their thinking of losing all the time nothing good can happen with them but bad will happen as always this is the ways they always think. Basically this is the fear of losing and fear happening mischief with them .

·      Negative results –

People with excessive negative thoughts get negative result due to their thinking of getting negative result because sometimes they don’t work that hard as they think they will get negative results. So due to this thinking they leave  hard work  as they do not believe in getting positive results any more.

GOOD SLEEP : KEEPS YOU HEALTHY

AUTHOR :  RASOOL FATIMA

After a long day of hard work, it is very important for a person to get a proper good sleep, so that immune, skeletal and muscular system can be rehabilitated well. But most of the people find it very difficult to take a proper good sleep. Problems include insomnia, sleep apnea, night terrors and restless leg syndrome, stress, anxiety. How much hour we need to sleep ? It is variable for different group of age , but for an average adult person should take at least 7-8 hours of sleep every day.

Benefits of good sleep:   

Helps you to learn more: - Getting proper sleep in night helps you to do your work actively throughout the day. People are more creative, productive and usually give good performance at work and make less mistakes. It also helps you in strengthening your memory and improves concentration and learning.

Keeps your body and mind fit: -Good sleep helps you to heal damaged cells, good for physical health, heart, mind and other vital organ. It abbreviates your level of stress, tension, anxiety and severe headaches. It also controls blood glucose level, blood pressure and body temperature.

Keeps your heart healthy:–A proper sleeping schedule help your cardiac vascular system to function properly. The chances of heart disease, stroke and hypertension are greatly reduced.

You’ll be in a better mood: - Waking up in the morning after a good sleep will make you feel more energetic, refresh, calm and optimistic.

 

Helps in controlling body weight: – It keeps your body weight in control and maintain hormonal balance that effect your appetite thus reducing your desire for high calories food. An irritable and calm less mind require more food because of hyperactivity and cause abdominal discomforts.