FEELING OF LOVE DURING TEENAGE IS A COMMON EMOTIONAL SITUATION. IT IS HORMONAL AND PHYSICAL CHANGE OCCURS WHICH CREATES ATTRACTION TOWARDS OPPOSITE SEX. TEENAGE CHILDREN ASSUME THIS ATTRACTION AS BEING IN LOVE.
BEING FRIENDS, FEELING ATTRACTION TOWARDS OPPOSITE SEX IS COMMON, THERE IS NOTHING PROBLEM BUT THEY SHOULD KNOW HOW TO CONTROL THESE EMOTIONS, SHOULDN'T BELIEVE BLINDLY ON THIS ATTRACTION WHICH IS FOR SHORT PERIOD THEN ENDS ITSELF.
I AM SHARING A CASE STORY ... HOW A GIRL FIND HERSELF IN A DIFFICULT AND CONFUSED STATE. WE HAVE ADVISED HER WITH MOST POSSIBLE SITUATION.
A anonymous girl not completed 18 years of age contacted us through an another anonymous girl, she didn't come to know due to identification reason, but talked in phone.
That girl was in love (according to her) with his classmate studying in 12th standard, she never told about her affair at home, but she was madly felled in love, they started to have physical relation too. After few month she missed her period, she use UPT kit, taste was positive, she got pregnant. she was afraid much to tell her parents, that boy also afraid but he agreed to run away with her for marriage without telling any one. she doesn't want to abort because she thinks that this is gift of her love and wouldn't want to loose. Then she became confused what to do, whether she should run away, if she does then what and how parents will react, should she tell all the matter to parent that she want to marry because of this reason.
Beside all these confused state, she was below 18 years and that boy too and they have not completed their study and too young to start a family.
I was asked to advice what to do. After asking some other formal question I reached at the conclusion that she was just attracted for that boy and not able to justify with her emotional state and has some moral love value but afraid from her parents and future too, although some of her friend advised her to abort but she had offered by that boy to run away. So overall she was confused what should be better for him.
As a counsellor our duty is to show possible way and make patient to realise his actual feeling and guide to choose a right way.
At the last of conversation I suggested two possibilities :
1. Think carefully about what she had done, accept the situation, explain about future and her carrier. During teen age period attraction and infatuation towards opposite gender is common, sometime it seems like true love but not and this attraction disappear self with time. Dream of golden future during this period is a fantasy only and has not any relation with reality. Being pregnant is not a gift of love in your age but is fruit of non-protracted act so there is nothing to correlate with feeling of love , it is immaturity only that why you are feeling so. If you will go with your decision and have not real love then you may spoil your entire life and future. So think with calm mind and every aspect of your life, future and family then take decision and leave the idea to run away without telling your parents.
2. You should tell all the situation to your parents , specially to your mother. every parents want to see their child happy, off course they will have some planning for your future but you have done all much before expected age. Parents will definitely get anger but they are only person who can protect you. Ask that boy too to confess his act in front of his parents. If you both want to continue your relationship then your parents are appropriate to talk mutually.
We regularly find to read above situation in newspaper and hear also in society, this is not good. Teen age children are passing from a transitional phase where they are growing up from childishness to adult, so they have lots of emotional changes, attraction, curiosity and don't able to decide what is good or bad. Having friendly relationship with opposite gender is good but that relationship which can spoil your life and future is not good anyway. Teen age children have many issue regarding their identity and in dependency but it is also necessary to observe them from guardian authority.
Some Advice for Teenage Children and their parents:
1. Friendly relationship between parents and children:
A good communication should be maintain so that children can share their all feeling and suffering if they have.
2. Meet children's friends:
Parents should meet occasionally with their children's friend and also should behave friendly with those children and encourage them to share their all matter. Children also should introduce their friend circle with parents and tell about activity.
3. Aware the children what is good or bad:
Every parents should talk with children about what is good or bad for them in this age period, how to handle emotional situation and control on them.
Teenage period is a important life period where every children prepared for their future, good caring and nurture make their future and a single mistake also can spoil their future.
So it is advice for children make friends, enjoy your school days, friendship but know your limits. This period is to prepare for future, future has many surprising and admirable event for you, you will get everything which you want, keep attention on your present and aim.
For any advice, help and assistance join us on facebook or mail us on our official WECARE E-mail
Beside all these confused state, she was below 18 years and that boy too and they have not completed their study and too young to start a family.
I was asked to advice what to do. After asking some other formal question I reached at the conclusion that she was just attracted for that boy and not able to justify with her emotional state and has some moral love value but afraid from her parents and future too, although some of her friend advised her to abort but she had offered by that boy to run away. So overall she was confused what should be better for him.
As a counsellor our duty is to show possible way and make patient to realise his actual feeling and guide to choose a right way.
At the last of conversation I suggested two possibilities :
1. Think carefully about what she had done, accept the situation, explain about future and her carrier. During teen age period attraction and infatuation towards opposite gender is common, sometime it seems like true love but not and this attraction disappear self with time. Dream of golden future during this period is a fantasy only and has not any relation with reality. Being pregnant is not a gift of love in your age but is fruit of non-protracted act so there is nothing to correlate with feeling of love , it is immaturity only that why you are feeling so. If you will go with your decision and have not real love then you may spoil your entire life and future. So think with calm mind and every aspect of your life, future and family then take decision and leave the idea to run away without telling your parents.
2. You should tell all the situation to your parents , specially to your mother. every parents want to see their child happy, off course they will have some planning for your future but you have done all much before expected age. Parents will definitely get anger but they are only person who can protect you. Ask that boy too to confess his act in front of his parents. If you both want to continue your relationship then your parents are appropriate to talk mutually.
We regularly find to read above situation in newspaper and hear also in society, this is not good. Teen age children are passing from a transitional phase where they are growing up from childishness to adult, so they have lots of emotional changes, attraction, curiosity and don't able to decide what is good or bad. Having friendly relationship with opposite gender is good but that relationship which can spoil your life and future is not good anyway. Teen age children have many issue regarding their identity and in dependency but it is also necessary to observe them from guardian authority.
Some Advice for Teenage Children and their parents:
1. Friendly relationship between parents and children:
A good communication should be maintain so that children can share their all feeling and suffering if they have.
2. Meet children's friends:
Parents should meet occasionally with their children's friend and also should behave friendly with those children and encourage them to share their all matter. Children also should introduce their friend circle with parents and tell about activity.
3. Aware the children what is good or bad:
Every parents should talk with children about what is good or bad for them in this age period, how to handle emotional situation and control on them.
Teenage period is a important life period where every children prepared for their future, good caring and nurture make their future and a single mistake also can spoil their future.
So it is advice for children make friends, enjoy your school days, friendship but know your limits. This period is to prepare for future, future has many surprising and admirable event for you, you will get everything which you want, keep attention on your present and aim.
For any advice, help and assistance join us on facebook or mail us on our official WECARE E-mail
Author - Dr. Bhupendra Gupta
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