Life Incidents

 Yes! They’ve made me stronger!

Author: Ishwarya J

Rewinding the years that have passed, it definitely feels that life isn’t that simple as you think.

I second all the thoughts that would be running on your mind right now because most of us would have faced a million complications to reach a settling point.

To put it across in a better way; this happened way back when I was in my eleventh grade where my world only was books and people identified me only with “them”. I was very bold and proactive in whatever I did. Probably because of the similar ambiance in my school. Nevertheless, we know situations are never the same and you’d might have to face things you wouldn’t think would be happening with you.

And this was the worse time I’ve ever been through.

The eleventh grade was a totally new atmosphere to me as I was from a girls school and never experienced coeducational life before. So, I basically had the same mindset as in school but this didn’t work out as people in my class mistook me by commenting  on my way of  being an active part in the class room sessions. Another strong reason was that , I never really found the need to interact with the guys in my class  not because I wasn’t used to it or something but, it  was my last priority. But this lead some people to think that I portrayed attitude.

 They knew that they were judging me in the wrong way ; just because my teachers interacted with me and liked me more. It would have been better if “only” they had such thoughts against me but that didn’t happen.

Be yourself ; a misunderstanding

SAUMYA MEHRA

There was a time when i was having too many losses of relationships due to losing of temper . One daymy teacher scolded me without any fault of mine and as usual i screamed Very much at  my teacher and that was wrong even if i was right. 

Teacher is the first god in journey of life how could i disrespect him and then i thought of changing my self because i was unhappy with deteriorating relationships of mine with everyone, friends ,teachers , parents. And then another dayiwas scrolling down in my phone i read about Buddha and being a student i want to know about him because of the wisdom he achieved and i read there his last words that is appodevobha womeans “be a light unto yourself” which means “be yourself” and I just cancelled  the thought of changing myself and satisfied  my behaviour and next day i was going somewhere with my family and a drunker was beating his wife in public and i thought to slap that guy but we walked off  . And that night i did not sleep thinking that if iwould get that kind of guy in my life and blah wlahand then i thought he is doing the same as i am doing “being self” . And more sleepless nights make me realised that being yourself does not mean stop improving or not improving . So just embrace and learn the lessons and move on.

Do not deny to a lesson of your life in the name of being yourself just because it wants some change in you.

Author- saumyamehra

DIABETES: A SILENT KILLER

✍ SAUMYA MEHRA

Diabetes is a condition in which the amount of glucose present in blood increases more than recommended normal level .  The intake of sugar is very important for human being as sugar is regarded as a source of immediate energy. Glucose in blood is very necessary and a hormone called insulin helps in travelling it to the cells where it is used as energy .Diabetes is a disease that you can  cure yourself too.

Diagnosis at time may extend many lives . It is further known as the silent killer because it is very easy to ignore the symptoms of diabetes. It is caused by many reasons like having excessive medication at childhood for various things like deforming, typhoid, jaundice etc and over eating of sugar, cell's resistance for insulin, hereditary cause etc. 

Symptoms of diabetes

·         Over hunger – If you are feeling more hungry without any changes in daily routine then this could be the signal to see the doctor. And over eating can cause increase in glucose (blood sugar) .

·         Increased thirst and urination– kidneys are unable to absorb excess sugar from the body in this disease. And fluids from other tissues also come out with urine and makes you feel dehydrated and increase your thirst. Insure that you are not going toilet more than 7 times a day. And if the frequency of going bathroom is increasing than you should see the doctor.

·         Fatigue- frequent exhaustion is also a symptom. If you are feeling tired quickly and weak then just be concerned about it.

स्वास्थ्य ही अपनी संपदा

लेख- श्रावणी प्रभुदेसाई 

मनुष्य का मन गहरे सागर की तरह होता है ,उसकी गहराई का अंदाजा किसीको आसानीसे नहीं लगता | कहा जाता है कि चेहरा मन का आईना होता है, मन में चल रही हलचल या मन में उभरनेवाले भले-बुरे खयाल उसके चेहरे पर प्रतीत होते हैं, हमारा यह मन कभी-कभी विचित्र गूढ नासमझ जैसा बर्ताव करने लगता है| मन मस्तिष्क में निरंतर विचारों का आदान-प्रदान चलता ही रहता है, इन विचारों के कारण मन असंतुलित हो जाता है और मानसिक तनाव निर्मित हो जाते हैं,और धीरे-धीरे बढने लगते हैं,  इन बढते तनावों के अनेक कारण होते हैं |

अत: प्रत्येक व्यक्ति के लिए आवश्यक है कि वह स्वास्थ्यप्रद जीवनशैली अपनाएँ और अपने तन को स्वस्थ और मन को आनंदित रखेंl

तन और मन का गहरा संबंध होता है, एक स्वस्थ हो तो दुसरा भी स्वस्थ और एक रोगी तो दुसरा भी रोगी, तन और मन  की स्वस्थता एक दुसरे पर निर्भर होती हैl स्वस्थ शरीर में ही स्वस्थ मस्तिष्क निवास करता हैl स्वस्थ विचारों और भावनाओं से मानव का स्वास्थ्य बहुत अधिक प्रभावित होता है इस लिए मानसिक विचार और भावनाओं में संतुलन होना जरूरी हैl

आज कल हर एक का जीवन तनाव से भरा रहता हैl इसके कई कारण हैंl एक हमारी बढती चाहतें : आज कल की आधुनिक जीवनशैली भी इसके लिए जिम्मेदार हैl हमारी चाहतें दिन दुगुनि रात चौगुनी बढती ही जा रहीं हैंl पुराने समय में कपडों के दो या तीन जोडे हर एक के पास रहते थेl उनकी जगह आज हर एक की अपनी कपडों की अलमारी रहती हैl याने की एक की जगह अऩेक कपडोंने ली हैl अगर घर किराये का हो तो फ्लेट की चाह, अग रफ्लेट है भी तो वह बडा चाहीये या फिर बंगला ही क्यों नही? अगर घरमें सायकील हो, तो स्कूटर क्यों नही और अगर स्कुटर है तो कार की चाहत, और कार है भी तो एक पुरानी होने से पहले नई की कामना l इसी तरह हमारी चाहतें दिन प्रतिदिन सुरसा के मुह की तरह बढती ही जातीं हैं, और इस के साथ बढता है मानसिक तनाव और साथ-साथ शरीर में प्रवेस करतीं हैं उच्च रक्तचाप ,मधुमेह, थायराइड जैसी व्याधीयाँ और धीरे-धीरे उनके साथ और रोगों के लिए हमारे शरीर के द्वार खुल जाते हैं|

समय का आभाव

MAGIC 8 RULES TO LOOSE WEIGHT FASTER

                       

 Dr Sourabh Jaiswal

  Diabetes & Nutritional adviser

. Lets start the magic...........?

Face it, if you want to lose weight over the long haul, your best bet is to make sustainable, long-term lifestyle changes.sometimes life comes at you fast and you need a fast solution. One smart lifestyle change is to eat plenty of veggies—especially for someone looking to lose weight. Vegetables are nutrient-packed and provide plenty of filling fiber with hardly any calories. Plus, non-starchy veggies have a high water content, so they hydrate you while filling you up—the perfect combination for weight loss.

Starchy veggies (like potatoes) and processed whole grains (like whole-wheat bread) are foods I'd normally recommend eating in moderation, since they provide plenty of nutrients, fiber, and healthy carbs. However, high-crab foods aren't your best friend when you're looking to drop water weight. Essentially, when your body stores excess carbs, it stores them with water. So replacing crab-heavy foods with non-starchy veggies that still provide filling fiber without as much water retention is the way to go. For a week before your event, you can swap out the starchy carbs for more non-starchy vegetables to lose some water weight.

Aim for filling at least half of your plate with non-starchy veggies like asparagus, peppers, broccoli, cauliflower, mushrooms, spinach, kale, cucumbers, and more. This is a great idea for everyone's health, not just people wanting to lose weight.

1.Swap the salt for herbs and spices

Another healthy change that will help you look better is to cut back on salt. Sodium causes your body to hold onto excess water, so eating a high-salt diet means you're likely storing more water weight than necessary.If you're in a rush to lose weight fast, cut out added salt as much as possible. That means keep ditching the salt shaker and avoiding processed and packaged foods, where added salt is pretty much inevitable.

Try making food from scratch rather than eating out before your big event to further limit sodium and fight bloat. Even at healthier restaurants, sodium levels tend to be through the roof.

Healthy body promotes healthy mind

✍ Rasool Fatima

In this hectic schedule of day to day life it is very important to give some time to your body by doing some exercise or yoga to stay fit and healthy. The main problem is that you don’t find time to look after yourself, you are always busy in completing work and in this race of world you yourself forget about your health and till the time you come to know about its bit late. And when your mind is in anguished state then your body also don’t cope up with you. As if you see a child you will find him/her enjoying every moment of life because they enjoy the present moment irrespective of any work or stress. As it is well said by Mahatma Gandhi,” It is health that is real wealth and not the pieces of gold and silver”.

Healthy body and healthy mind relation

A healthy body has a healthy mind. Doing exercise 3-4times in a week will keep your body fit and you will do your work actively. You can do meditation or can take small naps to relax your mind. Relaxation of mind is also very important as with the healthy mind you can do your work more effectively and creatively.

Having a healthy mind helps you to enjoy every moment of life and you may find happiness in small things whereas having an exhaust mind makes everything feel bad, even in the healthy environment you may feel dreadful.Mind has direct effect on your face expression, another person can tell your mood just by seeing your face. Healthy mind will give you a positive expression on your face whereas depressed mind will give you an awful look, so be happy that people also like to talk with you.

Set your daily routine

LET'S FIGHT BACK DEPRESSION

Written By-Tanya Paul

So first of all let me tell you about two instances of depression which I witnessed closely

INSTANCE ONE

When I was in my first year of graduation,

I remember, that I went into depression somehow . I was having some family problems, as well as problems with adjusting in the new city and losing old friends, and coincidentally I had some issues with my personal life too at that very moment , so eventually I slipped into depression. 

I remember I used to visit my home during the weekends, and my mother used to cry looking at me . My parents were so tensed about me that how I am I going to survive . One day my father took me for a walk and told me that no education, nothing is more important than you, he asked me to leave the college and have a new start but I somehow managed to survive through, and believe me it made me emerge as a better and more confident person. I am emotionally stronger now because of that , and I have the strength of overcoming difficult situations now.

INSTANCE TWO

Now let's talk about another instance of depression which I have witnessed,
A friend of mine( not a close one you though) lost her mother in a road accident ,
initially she was handling the situation strongly , she was taking care of her little brother and was trying to

be the strength of her family ,but eventually as the days passed by when the relatives stopped visiting ,when everyone else resumed with a normal life, that was the movement something hit her hard and she slipped into depression , a severe one . I remember how everyone tried to console her ,I remember the look in her eyes, the way she felt that nothing more is there to live for,but somehow she also managed to struggle her life through that phase
SO NOW LET’S TALK ABOUT DEPRESSION . WHAT EXACTLY THIS TERM IS?

Underrated Heightism: Why everyone wants a desired height ?

✍ KIRAN GOSWAMI

Heightism means the discrimination of an individual on the basis of height. A person’s height whether it is less or more than the average height is considered anomalous by the society.  Height is a trait of judgment for someone’s personality (the other parameters being colour, weight and gender).

There have been several underlying stereotypes regarding height that everyone of us wants a desired height and gets depressive if it doesn’t happen. 

Struggle for desired height :

The average height of an Indian man is about 5 feet 4 inches while that of woman is 5 feet. If someone suffers from major distortions in these height measures, then they are treated differently. If someone is extra tall, then he has to undergo discrimination and struggle.

But the struggle of a shorter person is a constant battle. The various advertisements of “attain long height” supplements are perfect examples for understanding the pressure to have desired, socially – acceptable height.

People also strive for normal height because of the several prejudices and discriminations they have to suffer from due to unusual height. Heightism or height discrimination is a highly neglected term and nobody accepts to be the supporter of height stereotypes but unknowingly we all are a part of it. Let’s take an example –

Imagine someone who have always inspired you .Someone whom you have always adored and followed. You not only like their talent or working style or looks but you are all over the way they talk, they walk, their confidence, their gesture, their posture, their behavior, their thoughts and their ideas. All in all you are totally up for that person’s personality. You cherish everything about that person. They are your role model and you, often, wish if you were just like them.

Now, there is a kink in the story. Imagine that person is half of their original height now. Go on, think, have the pictorial imagination. Why, what happened? The dream of becoming like them puffed into the thin air. Didn’t it?

This is where height discrimination slips in. We ignore the problems a person of unusual stature has to face but the struggle is real.

The Race of Desired Height:

There are certain reasons which cause people to constantly strive for getting certain height ­–

1.      Job Requirements  –  Height requirements

Arranged Marriages in the time of Tinder

✍ KIRAN GOSWAMI

India is constantly modernizing and westernizing. With the changing ideas and thought process, dating culture is one of the new ongoing trends. Still in the age when India has (almost) accepted love marriages and you can find your perfect match just by swiping right, the developing youth of India is again proceeding to take the shelter of Arranged marriages. Non-availability of perfect partner, understanding issues or trust problems, compatibility factor, salary issues, rejections etc. – reasons can be several but the point is that the lost charm of arranged marriages is coming back, although with some twists.

Traditional Arranged Marriages:

The traditional arranged marriage refers to the process of matrimony where the partner of an individual is selected by their parents or relatives. The process starts with the realization that the girl/boy has grown up and is ready for marriage.

 Usually the social reach of parents and relatives makes it easier to find a suitable match, but sometimes the help of a matchmaker is being taken. The matchmaker takes the whole  responsibility of finding and setting up a match between both the families. 

The suitability of match is checked upon various parameters such as religion, caste, culture, family background, financial stability, character, physical stature, horoscope matches etc. After proper research and judging if all goes well, the boy’s family visits the girl’s house and interviews her. The boy may or may not accompany them. If he comes, the boy and girl can meet privately for few minutes.

After ensuring everything, the match is solidified by engagement and consolidates into marriage later on.

 Modern Arranged Marriages:

While the selection power still remains in the hands of parents and relatives, but modern arranged marriages also support the idea of individual’s consent. The matchmaking help can also be taken by registering online on matrimonial sites such as Shaadi.com and Bharat Matrimony. Though majority of the process remains same, the modernized form of arranged marriage also dwells on the idea of courtship. The couple can date each other and try to build an understanding.

Significance of Arranged Marriage :

There several factors and advantages which have regained people’s faith in the institution of arranged marriages –

1.      Longevity -  The success rate of arranged marriages has done a great job of maintaining their goodwill. There has been one in a hundred case of divorce for the arranged marriage couples and this makes people to follow the tradition.

2.      Commitment -The foundation of an arranged marriage is commitment. It provides stability and creates a secure bond between the couple, thereby instilling the seeds of trust and love.

Work your fingers to the bone and Entrust

By - Shravani

Hello Friends,  I am Shravani, and I want to share few of mine  experiences with you, that completely changed my life and my way of thinking.  Here  I would like to mention two incidents. One that occurred with me and the other with my friend but these experiences actually changed our lives.

The first incident happened with my friend who is a medical student. That time she was in class 12^th . She was given a recognition for her hard work, intelligence and punctuality by teachers during junior college. Teachers would always appreciate her and help her in her studies.

But there was one black sheep in the teaching fraternity. This teacher resented the compliments earned by her. Despite the fact that she had a potential to excel academically it happened that out  of vengeance , the teacher instead of capitalising  on the positive side gave more emphasis on the shortcomings on her part with sole aim to demoralise her. In a situation like this, the vindictive attitude of the teacher is detrimental .

Thus, she was very much depressed and helpless. Looking at her in depression, even we thought that she would never come out of this terrible depression that seized he then. But because of her well-wishers within the peers who used to constantly motivate her and also  our  teachers who held  very high esteem in her , advised  to wink at the scathing comments made by the teacher in question.

The advice rendered by the friends and well-wishers did help her to tide over the crisis. And thus she took her lessons very seriously, deciding that one  should not get influenced by any extraneous comments which were aimed to mar her progress.

From this incident, all of us learnt a very important thing i.e. there are people who always try to pull your legs but don’t   fall for them. Always your hard work will give the results. “Hardwork Never Fails”.

Here, there is one more incident which happened with me when I was in Mumbai. And now,  when I recall that incident I feel that before trusting any one you should think twice. Trust on any person plays an important role. Be careful when you trust.  I often refer myself as the luckiest traveler, because till now, I have very good experiences while travelling but, travel can be challenging, stressful and even bad things can happen.

So going ahead with the incident, it happened that, I had to catch a bus running to Goa at 11 pm from Vashi Toll naka. So, the bus stop was far away from my place and also it was on  a highway from where it was nearly impossible to cross